I woke up yesterday annoyed about a certain person in my life. I recognized I wasn’t being fair at all and I was close to letting those feelings impinge on my whole day.
Fortunately I meditate most mornings and as I was sitting I realized I could look for a bit of gratefulness about this person.
It came to me that he’s kind, knowledgeable and supportive about an area of my life that seems particularly complicated.
As I had these thoughts I could feel my body begin to relax. I continued my mental list and came up with probably 10 things I could feel gratefulness around this person. It shifted my whole day from negative to positive.
Gratefulness helps words flow
I’m not sure why making a gratitude list helps writing, but it does, at least for me. There’s a ton of science to back up that statement. One example is How Gratitude Can Change Your Life by Dr. Rick Hanson. He’s got a whole list of how a bit of gratefulness literally improves our lives, including:
- Improving relationships
- Getting better sleep
- Improving our self-esteem
Heck even one of these might make it easier for us to write more fluidly and with confidence.
How to get grateful
Back in the day, talk of gratitude made me itchy. It felt forced and like I probably couldn’t match up – match up to what, I’m not sure. I simply became uncomfortable at the thought.
Then Oprah started talking about writing down 3 things we were grateful for every day. I grudgingly thought about three things maybe twice a week to start. Somehow I caught the fact that even that little bit reduced my grumbling about anything and everything. So I started to write them down.
Eventually someone suggested that if something happened and I wasn’t grateful about it I should stand there until I could be grateful. I’ve even came to be grateful for my migraines – after all, they kept me out of the normal work force for years. (I’m also grateful that a ketogenic diet has reduced my migraines significantly, but that’s another story.)
Writing gratitudes down works, so does counting them off on a set of rosary beads. Just sitting and making a mental list works. So does developing a habit of noticing when I’m out of sorts and looking for things to be grateful for… the methods are probably endless.
Try it and see if a touch of gratefulness doesn’t make it easier for you to write. Let us know what happens in comments.
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